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Mar. 7th, 2015 03:06 pmA lot of times I feel like an alien in this world. Even though I can usually empathize with other people, I can't quite connect with them, if that makes any sense. It's like I can channel their feelings in me and see things through their world for a short period of time, but I can't equate their world to mine. Which is okay, I guess. I don't think it's ever possible to connect with someone else 100% completely.
It's like if you watched a movie with your friends and they all enjoyed the action parts of it, while you enjoyed the character development the most. When you talk to them about it, they're so involved in discussing those actions scenes that they're not able to see your point of view. Yes, those action scenes were amazing, but there are other things about the movie too, right? Why is it that you're the only one who thinks this way?
I feel like this a lot of the time, like I see things that nobody else really sees or thinks about. I know this happens to everyone to some extent, but I've come to realize that this happens to me a lot more than anyone around me. Whenever I talk to someone about what's on in my mind, I get these weird looks, and I constantly get told how different my opinions are, how different I am, or how weird I am. People don't do it in a condescending way, but it's more like they're pointing out a fact.
Which makes me feel like an alien most of the time, as though the things I have to say or the things I think about aren't really relevant to anything. Perhaps what surprises me the most is that a lot of people feel this way too. How is it possible to reach out to others who feel this way?
How do I help them? How do I help myself?
It's like if you watched a movie with your friends and they all enjoyed the action parts of it, while you enjoyed the character development the most. When you talk to them about it, they're so involved in discussing those actions scenes that they're not able to see your point of view. Yes, those action scenes were amazing, but there are other things about the movie too, right? Why is it that you're the only one who thinks this way?
I feel like this a lot of the time, like I see things that nobody else really sees or thinks about. I know this happens to everyone to some extent, but I've come to realize that this happens to me a lot more than anyone around me. Whenever I talk to someone about what's on in my mind, I get these weird looks, and I constantly get told how different my opinions are, how different I am, or how weird I am. People don't do it in a condescending way, but it's more like they're pointing out a fact.
Which makes me feel like an alien most of the time, as though the things I have to say or the things I think about aren't really relevant to anything. Perhaps what surprises me the most is that a lot of people feel this way too. How is it possible to reach out to others who feel this way?
How do I help them? How do I help myself?
