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Introvert vs. Extrovert
May. 21st, 2008 01:48 pmI was in my room the other night with my door open... and my roommates were having one of their "parties." I was practicing on my keyboard with the headphones on, and one of my roommate's friends walked inside my room. He didn't even ask if he could come in... he just walked in. With a big smile on his face. It looked a bit obnoxious to me...
"DaAaAAyym, dawg, you got a keyboard? What kind of music do you make?" My first reaction was to get my guard up. The last thing I wanted was a guy to come into my room and start probing my stuff. And here he was, doing exactly that. I couldn't respond to him... I always get a blank in my mind when talking with extroverts. "Uhm... I'm just... practicing.. trying to play something..." He walked even deeper into my room, and I was slightly annoyed at this. He saw a box of cookies one of my friends left on my desk and said, "Dude, you should eat healthier stuff." That's not mine.. I thought, but why bother responding? In the next second, he was already talking about something else..
Him: "I have my own midi synthesizer."
Me: "Whoa, you make your own music? That's pretty cool."
Him: "For real dawg. So what song are you making?"
Me: (Didn't he hear what I said before?) "Uhm.. I'm just trying to practice."
Him: "Oh... that's it, huh? So what are you playing? (he looks at my sheet music) LENIN?"
Me: "Nooo, it's not what you think. it's from a movie called "Goodbye Lenin." (he gives me a weird look)
Him: "That's a weird name... You should try making your own music."
After giving my room one more close inspection, he left, as simple as that. He's probably completely forgotten about the visit to my room by now. For me, however, it was very, very annoying to the point that I still can't get my mind off of it. For those few seconds, I felt like my whole identity was being picked apart and scrutinized.
It made me realize just how different introverts and extroverts could be. Granted, not every extrovert is like that guy and not every introvert is like me... but I could sense the subtleties.
Could it be that extroverts have closer personal boundaries than introverts? Every extrovert that's stepped inside my room has shown no concern about my personal space. I thought it was annoying how they could walk into my closet without a second thought to it. I know I must seem like an enigma to them (with my door always closed), and I can understand if they're curious about me.... but geez.. They mean well... but...
x_x
"DaAaAAyym, dawg, you got a keyboard? What kind of music do you make?" My first reaction was to get my guard up. The last thing I wanted was a guy to come into my room and start probing my stuff. And here he was, doing exactly that. I couldn't respond to him... I always get a blank in my mind when talking with extroverts. "Uhm... I'm just... practicing.. trying to play something..." He walked even deeper into my room, and I was slightly annoyed at this. He saw a box of cookies one of my friends left on my desk and said, "Dude, you should eat healthier stuff." That's not mine.. I thought, but why bother responding? In the next second, he was already talking about something else..
Him: "I have my own midi synthesizer."
Me: "Whoa, you make your own music? That's pretty cool."
Him: "For real dawg. So what song are you making?"
Me: (Didn't he hear what I said before?) "Uhm.. I'm just trying to practice."
Him: "Oh... that's it, huh? So what are you playing? (he looks at my sheet music) LENIN?"
Me: "Nooo, it's not what you think. it's from a movie called "Goodbye Lenin." (he gives me a weird look)
Him: "That's a weird name... You should try making your own music."
After giving my room one more close inspection, he left, as simple as that. He's probably completely forgotten about the visit to my room by now. For me, however, it was very, very annoying to the point that I still can't get my mind off of it. For those few seconds, I felt like my whole identity was being picked apart and scrutinized.
It made me realize just how different introverts and extroverts could be. Granted, not every extrovert is like that guy and not every introvert is like me... but I could sense the subtleties.
Could it be that extroverts have closer personal boundaries than introverts? Every extrovert that's stepped inside my room has shown no concern about my personal space. I thought it was annoying how they could walk into my closet without a second thought to it. I know I must seem like an enigma to them (with my door always closed), and I can understand if they're curious about me.... but geez.. They mean well... but...
x_x
